Never discipline a child using their fear of something or someone. Never assume a child have no fears. Each and every person young or old have different types of phobias. I myself is afraid of the dark. I have fear of heights. I hate cockroaches and centipedes. I don’t like to swim in pools of 5 ft. of water.
I was too busy with my work and personal stuff that I didn’t know that my kids have phobias. My bad. As parents we should know and understand their anxieties.
Now I am paying the price for not knowing (i.e. July 29, 2012 Sunday evening). Full of regrets.